Husband won’t talk to grieving wife and sends her text instead – even though she’s next to him
When we lose a loved one, we often find ourselves relying on our other nearest and dearest for support and care during the difficult time. One woman has recently shared how her brother has been sick for weeks and sadly passed away.
She thought that her husband would be there for her after losing her sibling, but was appalled by her partner’s reaction to finding out about her loss.
The woman shared her shocking story online, asking people for their thoughts on the matter.
In a post on Reddit’s Am I The A**hole forum, the anonymous lady wrote: “My brother passed away two weeks ago. He was in the hospital for weeks.
“He was very sick. During that time I was very stressed out and worried a lot. I was busy with work, the house, my son and my brother.
“My husband works from home. I work long hours. When I got home from the hospital I argued with my husband about an issue. Instead of talking to me like an adult he suddenly stopped talking to me and started texting me saying that way we can have a civil talk.
“Whenever I ask him to do something or ask him about our son he’d stay silent and type his response in a text then send it to me. He only talks to our son.
“And has taken over house chores but he doesn’t talk to me directly. I’m not gonna lie it made me feel awful because at the time I really needed to talk to somebody and he was being unreasonable.”
She goes on to say that she ignored her husband’s behaviour as she thought he would stop eventually, but he didn’t – not even when they got the call.
“Two weeks ago, at seven in the morning, I received a call from my mother telling me that my brother just passed away. It was an awful devastating moment for me. I was in shock but calm enough to give my husband the news.
“I told him my brother just passed away. He was still in bed at the time but was on his phone. His reaction was that he looked at me for a few seconds. Then started typing on his phone. My phone was still in my hand when I received a text from him. Saying ‘I’m sorry’ and that’s it.
“Didn’t speak to me even after hearing the news. I didn’t expect he’d do that. I lost it. I blew up at him and I started crying. I called his behaviour unreasonable and his reaction to this devastating news was awful.
“I was hurt and he finally spoke up and said that he’s the one who’s hurt and that I shouldn’t have blown up at him because it wasn’t his fault my brother died. He then left the room.”
She adds that her husband then tried to apologise but she wouldn’t talk to him and instead went to see her mum.
Her mum advised her not to “lash out” at her partner as it won’t solve anything and now the woman is questioning whether she was right to argue with her husband.
More than 1,000 people responded to her post, with many being quick to reassure her she had done nothing wrong.
One said: “At a moment to prove that he was your partner there to support you in one of the worst moments of your life he chose his wants and how he felt. Text him your divorce lawyer’s number.”
Another wrote: “This is horrifying. I lost a sister a few years ago. I was in shock for an hour or so after. Somehow, it wasn’t until I called my boss to tell him I would be out of work for a while that it slammed down on me. I was in a gas station parking lot, on my way to my Mom’s.
“A woman pumping gas came over to me, asked if I needed help, and when I said my sister was dead, she embraced me and cried with me for several minutes. A complete stranger in a dark parking lot offered me more love and support than your husband. The man is a complete monster.”
A third replied: “Is it even legal for you to have married a 13-year-old? This person cannot possibly be an adult. Also, your mom is wrong. Please update us once you’ve rid yourself of this cruel, childish person. I’m so very sorry for your loss.”